We all grew up in stereotypes more or less. Many of us make judgments on others based on the stereotypes surrounding us. They make us fearful, hesitant, doubtful, insecure and unsettled.
How many of us are afraid of judgments? Judgments are poisonous and dangerous. We all don’t like being judged but yet we judge people sometimes. It makes the ones judging feel like they have some kind of inferior power or rights to make assumptions about others and at the same time, the ones judged feel hurt or even ashamed. We live in a society where it is so easy to judge but it is so hard to love one another. We judge people on their appearance, life choice, wealth, etc.and most of the time we don’t even really know much about the people we’re judging.
Why can’t we just accept and respect that we all are unique individuals with different lifestyles, opinions, personalities? Why do we keep judging others and asking them to be like ourselves? Or we ourselves have been judged and forced by social norms, family’s expectations and peer pressure into thinking and behaving like the societal systems, the governments, the corporations, the media want us to? Where is our independent voice?
When we judge someone, I think we lose part of our individual identity and core values, because we didn’t take the time to get to know the person, to understand who they are, what they’ve been through. The thing is we will never be able to really know what they have been through, we will never be able to walk the same path as they have; which makes it impossible to really understand them thus we just have no rights whatsoever to judge anyone.
What if with all the differences, we still live in harmony and peace? What if we allow ourselves to step back and think about ourselves, our lives, our stories, to find our voice, to figure out who we are and who we really want to be beneath all the judgments, stereotypes, false securities, materialism and consumerism, mass-brainwashing that we face every day? What if we are brave enough to overcome the fears of failure, of being judged, of all the pressure and find our inner voice? What if we allow ourselves to really be ourselves and others to really be themselves? Why do we have to be stuck in this vicious circle of judging, blaming, shaming?
Stereotypes and judgments not only blind us from realizing who we really are but also stop us from seeing who people really are and take away our abilities to be free and compassionate and see the goodness in life. So why don’t we let go of all judgments and take a chance to love ourselves and others?
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